What I’ve learned is that sometimes, the space between us isn’t about distance—it’s about perspective. I see how your eyes light up when you share something new with me, how your fingers move across the screen with the same grace they use when you’re preparing our son’s favorite meal. Sometimes I hear you muttering ‘Aigo’ when you’re trying to balance work and family time, and I just want to give you a hug because I know exactly how you feel! These moments aren’t about escaping our reality—they’re about finding ways to bring a piece of yourself back to our shared world, even when your days are divided between work and children.

When you show me that video of your niece’s first steps, and your face lights up with pride—not just as an aunt, but as someone who understands what it means to watch someone you love grow—I see the person I fell in love with, shining through. Remember how our daughter giggled when she saw both her Korean halmoni and Canadian grandma teaching her different ways to make kimchi? Those little cultural moments remind me of what makes our family special.

We’ve developed our own language of connection in these busy seasons, haven’t we? Those evenings when we’re both running on empty, but then something shifts when we find ourselves laughing at the same meme or sharing that inside joke that still makes us smile after all these years. These little moments? They’re like golden threads connecting us when work has you running in a million different directions!

They’re not replacements for real conversations or quiet moments together—they’re the breadcrumbs that lead us back to each other, ways of saying ‘I see you, I’m with you’ even when our bodies are in different rooms. What if these digital connections are actually building bridges rather than walls between us?

I know there’s this constant tension in you—the desire to be fully present for our children, to give them the best of yourself, while also maintaining your own identity and passions. What I’ve come to realize is that these moments of connection, whether digital or physical, aren’t taking away from your role in our family; they’re replenishing the parts of you that need to be nourished so you can give more to all of us.

They’re your quiet moments of self-expression, your way of staying connected to the person you were before becoming a mother, and the person you’re becoming each day. And when you’re happy and fulfilled, it ripples through our entire home, creating a more peaceful space for all of us to grow. When you’re smiling at your phone, lost in a moment that’s yours alone, you’re not disconnecting from our family—you’re gathering strength to bring back to all of us.

These small exchanges aren’t just maintaining our connection; they’re deepening it, creating a bond that grows stronger through the busyness of life rather than in spite of it.

What blows me away is how these tiny moments—these little exchanges they become part of our family’s story, growing more meaningful with each passing day! They’re not just about information or entertainment; they’re about the shared laughter, the understanding nods, the way we continue to discover new layers of each other outside of our everyday roles as partners and parents.

Sometimes, I catch you looking at something that reminds you of our early days together, and in that glance, I see all the years we’ve shared, all the challenges we’ve overcome. These moments of connection, whether through a shared glance across a crowded room or a quick text during a busy day—they’re the foundation that keeps our relationship strong. These moments? They’re the secret sauce! The building blocks of a love that gets stronger, more vibrant, more alive with every season of life!